“Don’t ever change,” a patient said to me as he walked out of my consulting room. For a second I was a bit puzzled and didn’t know what he meant by that. But then I remembered a couple of months ago my colleague had told me about this particular patient. He had mentioned to themContinue reading “How to listen”
Author Archives: Rebecca
When you don’t know
Over the years, I’ve gotten comfortable with telling patients, “I don’t know”. But it’s something that I’ve had to practice and constantly work on because as a doctor, you pride yourself on knowing. So it’s uncomfortable to admit that you don’t know. You go through medical school, constantly being questioned, constantly being tested. You’re expectedContinue reading “When you don’t know”
How do I keep going?
Over these last few weeks I’ve met so many patients who have come to see me to discuss their mental-health. And honestly I am so drained. Now I don’t say that to be rude or dismissive of these patients at all. I actually find these consultations the most rewarding because I feel like it’s anContinue reading “How do I keep going?”
How to be grateful
Funnily enough my gratitude comes about when I consider taking a mental health day. I’ll be the first person to sign off a medical certificate for someone who needs a mental health day. Honestly, if someone is going through hell, then I feel like that’s the least that I can do for them. But whenContinue reading “How to be grateful”
How can I be beautiful?
Yesterday we spent the day with my husband’s family for Easter. Our 5 year old niece was full of energy and needed a brief sit-down distraction, so my husband showed her our wedding photos on his phone. She brought his phone over to me and swiped through a few photos of me getting ready onContinue reading “How can I be beautiful?”
How do I live a full life?
This week I met a 100 year old patient. Apart from needing to use a walking frame to get around, she was in great condition. Her mind was sharp, and physically she could still do a lot for herself: cooking, showering, making the bed. And she told me all of this with great, unreserved pride.Continue reading “How do I live a full life?”
Why do people not take me seriously?
Because I am a small, young, Asian female. That’s why. And you know what? I totally get it. I’ve grown up in a Western society. And even I almost expect my doctor to be a tall, middle-aged white man. The cognitive dissonance resulting from a child-like, ethnic person announcing my name in the waiting-room andContinue reading “Why do people not take me seriously?”
How do I find ‘the one’?
It’s the million dollar question. Quite distinct from ‘how do you find love?’ because I think that you can find love anywhere, but it may not necessarily last a lifetime as it would with ‘the one’. Obviously there is no tried and true method for this, only that we have our own theories on thisContinue reading “How do I find ‘the one’?”
How do I overcome anxiety?
Of the twenty-four patients that I consult with each day, at least half will have this question at the forefront of their minds. Anxiety is such a common experience – we all have or will have experienced anxiety at some point in our lives. But what really differs is the way that it is experienced,Continue reading “How do I overcome anxiety?”
How do I start a blog?
I’ve always loved to write. In my early twenties, writing was a coping mechanism for me. It allowed me to sit, reflect and make sense of what was going on in my life. And while my life didn’t seem too bad in the grand scheme of things, there was a lot that occupied my mind.Continue reading “How do I start a blog?”